First and foremost, we need to know why the child is arguing. Arguments, disagreement and the way things are told to us is important and has to be appropriate. It is a human trait. While argument is not considered a negative personality, when it becomes frequent it is likely to affect an individual’s acceptance in the society and among peers as well.
Behavioural changes in children are noticed gradually during their growing years. The new behaviours determine the traits of the child. If they are shaped into good ones, it will make good human beings, if not these remain with the child unchecked and uncorrected. This is where parenting comes into play. One of the major aspects of parenting is to direct the course of behavioural action in a child.”
Reason for Arguing:
Children have strong opinion and they want to showcase it. They have a deep-seated attitude of never letting anyone else outweigh them in terms of opinion and presentation. This inherent quality generates the urge to speak and sometimes counter what others have said.
Many other children simply want to speak no matter what. These kids are oblivious of the fact that they are triggering arguments with their statement. They do not wish to leave things unsaid. It’s just that they do not want to keep it to themselves. Children often imitate their elders. If a child sees his or her parents or elders arguing, it may pick up this habit.
The most important rule is to avoid arguments, no matter what. Once you notice, your child is about to argue, make yourself sparse from the discussion,do not encourage argument.
Don’t give harsh statements:
This is another golden rule to cut short the argument. Do not use statements like “That’s wrong”, “Behave properly”. While you may be under the assumption that this will scare the child and may correct their behaviour, on the other hand you are just laying the ground for the battle of argument to begin.
Never Give a term for their behaviour:
Do not say that it’s bad to argue with elders or that a child should always listen to what elders say. In this way you are killing the curiosity in a child. In such situations try to pull out the negativity and say something positive. Instead of giving a term for the behaviour as bad, explain it to your child that the opinion was uncalled for.
Parent should accept when wrong:
Parents should also take the responsibility and be a role model to your child by accepting when you’re wrong. Make sure to appreciate your child when they are right. Admitting being wrong will not make you less. This will not lessen your authority as a parent.